The Parent Book.
Therapist-written support for parents
Urgent help

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The Parent Book, in a minute.

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Anxiety, by Age.

For parents whose child’s worry has started to make decisions for her, with what helps at each age and when to ask for help.

In one sense, anxiety is the same thing all through childhood. It’s the body’s signal that it has decided something is dangerous, in a child who doesn’t yet have the experience or the words to switch that signal off again. What changes between four and eighteen is what the worry is about, and what she has to get on with while it’s going on.

That’s why anxiety is so confusing for parents. The four-year-old who won’t be put down doesn’t look like the same problem as the fifteen-year-old who won’t get on the bus. They look entirely different, and the cause is entirely different. Strategies that helped at four can stop helping at ten, and the ones that help at fifteen would have terrified the four-year-old.

Continue reading, about fifteen minutes

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Who writes it

Written by therapists who see these families every week.

The Parent Book is written by the therapists at Kensington Square Therapy, a London practice that works with children, young people and their parents, much of it alongside the city’s independent schools. The questions in these pages are the ones parents bring to us, and the chapters are written the way we would answer them in the room: plainly, and knowing that you know your child better than anyone.

Every page says where else to get help, from the GP and the school to the charities that know their field best.

The Parent Book is written by qualified therapists registered with the BACP and NCPS.

About the practice

The subscription

One subscription. The whole library, from the day you join.

£129a year

All 24 chapters, 195 quick tips, 38 activities, every sheet to print, 40 what-to-say cards and 8 self-care tools, and everything we add while you subscribe. Paid once a year by Direct Debit; cancel at any time. Two or three emails a term, which you can stop.

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You can read one chapter free, and use the subject pages for as long as you like.

Some questions need a conversation.

A parent consultation is a private conversation with a therapist at the practice, about your child. Your child doesn’t need to be in therapy for you to ask, and one conversation is often enough.

About parent consultations

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