33 sheets, 11 free
Sheets to print, and to pass on.
Sheets to fill in together, keep on the fridge, or take to a meeting with school or an appointment with the GP. Each goes with a chapter, a quick tip or an activity in the library.
How to print them
Each sheet is a PDF, made to print at home on A4. Print at actual size rather than fit to page, so that the cards cut out cleanly into four. Everything reads as well in black and white as in colour.
Every sheet is dated, and none carries a telephone number except the emergency line, so nothing on the fridge can go out of date without you noticing.
Eleven of the 33 are free to anyone, and each is marked. The others come with a subscription. A sheet is also yours with its chapter, if that is the chapter you read free, and when a teacher or therapist sends you the sheet, or the chapter, tip or activity it goes with. School staff and therapists signed in to their shelf can print every one.
To make and fill in together
Sheets a parent and child make together, on a calm day, and keep.
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To make together
Where a feeling sits
A plain body outline to mark where a feeling starts, with a short list of feeling words on the back.
Goes with Big Feelings and Co-Regulation and Anxiety, by Age
With a subscription
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To fill in together
The new place
Before term, walk the route twice, find the handful of rooms that matter in the first week, and plan what she’ll do if she gets lost.
Goes with The Move to Secondary School
With a subscription
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To fill in together
A plan for a bad day
Made together in a good week: who to call, who does the school run, what we say on a hard day, and one rule for an emergency.
Goes with When You Are Not All Right
Free to print
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To keep
What I will miss
Two blank pages for the last weeks at a school, for what she’ll miss and what she’s looking forward to. They’re hers to keep.
Goes with The Move to Secondary School and When a Child Is Grieving
With a subscription
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For the kitchen
Jobs in the kitchen, by age
Real jobs for a child at each age, with the safety lines that go with them, for cooking one thing together each week.
Goes with When They Stop Talking to You and Eating and Control
With a subscription
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For the fridge
A week across two homes
Her week in colour, made with her and put up at her eye level, with a second page for a holiday. No names or addresses are printed on it.
Goes with When Parents Separate
With a subscription
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To make together
The school day, drawn as a line
She draws her day from gate to gate and marks the heavy parts. Your page is for taking one of those moments to the school, and leaving your conclusions out.
Goes with What to Do When School Is the Problem and The Move to Secondary School
With a subscription
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To fill in together
A box for the memories
Two pages to fill in together after a death: what she would like to put in the box, and what she remembers. The second page can go in the box too.
Goes with When a Child Is Grieving
With a subscription
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To fill in together
The worry ladder
For an everyday fear: the steps from easiest to hardest, written together, with a box to mark each try.
Goes with When Reassurance Stops Working
Free to print
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To fill in together
A page about me
A page in her own words for a new teacher: what she enjoys, what she finds hard, what helps and what doesn’t. The second page is for you, before you start.
Goes with Neurodiversity, and the Conversation with the School and The Move to Secondary School
With a subscription
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To fill in together
Our screen plan
A family agreement made with her: where the devices go at night, the times with no screens (the adults keep them too), what she does if something online upsets her, and when you will look at it again.
Goes with Screen Time and Your Child’s Online World
With a subscription
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To make together
When feelings get big: our plan
Made on a calm day with a child between five and eleven: what she notices in her body, three things that help, what she would like the grown-up to do and not do, and where her calm place is.
Goes with Big Feelings and Co-Regulation
With a subscription
For the fridge and the pocket
Short cards for the routines the library suggests, to print and cut out.
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For the fridge
After a mock
The same routine after every practice paper, on a card for the fridge.
Goes with The 11+ Year and Perfectionism
With a subscription
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Pocket card
The walk with no agenda
For the parent: openers that are not about school, what to do with a silence, and what to do if something hard is said.
Goes with When They Stop Talking to You
With a subscription
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For the fridge
Packing from the timetable
For the first weeks at a new school, pack the bag together the night before, then choose a date when it becomes her job.
Goes with The Move to Secondary School
With a subscription
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For the fridge
A day with no 11+ in it
The week on one page: the day, and the three evenings, with no papers, no practice and no talk of the test.
Goes with The 11+ Year
With a subscription
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Pocket card
A way back to the room
A short noticing game on one side and a figure of eight to trace on the other, practised together on calm days.
Goes with When Reassurance Stops Working and Anxiety, by Age
With a subscription
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Pocket card
My words for that moment
A small blank card for the two or three sentences she has chosen for a moment she dreads, in her own handwriting.
Goes with When the Best Friend Moves On and When Your Child Is Being Bullied
With a subscription
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For the fridge
The last half-hour before bed
Your family’s last half-hour before bed, in the order you chose together, with a box for each step to draw in and a line to write it.
Goes with The Hour Before Bed
Free to print
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Cards to cut out
First this, then that
Four cards to cut out, each with a box for the thing she does first and a box for what comes next, to draw in or stick a photograph on. The back of each card says how to use it.
Goes with Big Feelings and Co-Regulation and Neurodiversity, and the Conversation with the School
With a subscription
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For the door
The door list
The family’s own list of the three or four things that go out of the door each morning, with a tick box for each school day and a box for the things that go on some days only.
Goes with Neurodiversity, and the Conversation with the School and The Move to Secondary School
With a subscription
What to say
First sentences, each word for word from a quick tip, on cards to cut out and keep.
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Cards to cut out
What to say: when feelings run high
Eight first sentences, each from a quick tip in the library, with a line on when to say it.
With a subscription
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Cards to cut out
What to say: school and friends
Eight first sentences, each from a quick tip in the library, with a line on when to say it.
Free to print
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Cards to cut out
What to say: loss and change
Eight first sentences, each from a quick tip in the library, with a line on when to say it.
With a subscription
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Cards to cut out
What to say: growing up
Eight first sentences, each from a quick tip in the library, with a line on when to say it.
With a subscription
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Cards to cut out
What to say: when it is you
Eight first sentences, each from a quick tip in the library, with a line on when to say it.
With a subscription
For the school and the GP
For the phone call, the SENCo meeting, the GP appointment and the return after a long absence.
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For a call or a meeting
Before you ring the school
What you’ve noticed, with dates, who to speak to and what you agreed. A school can look for a pattern if it’s told about it.
Goes with The Move to Secondary School and What to Do When School Is the Problem
Free to print
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For a meeting
Before the SENCo meeting
The email that asks for the meeting, three to five specific things you have noticed, and what was agreed.
Goes with Neurodiversity, and the Conversation with the School
Free to print
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For a meeting
Three reports, side by side
A grid for the last three years of school reports, to find the sentence that keeps repeating, and the line to take to the class teacher.
Goes with Neurodiversity, and the Conversation with the School
Free to print
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For a meeting
The return-to-school meeting
For a child going back after a long absence: the named adult, the hardest lessons, a catch-up plan at her pace, and the practical arrangements that make the first day possible.
Goes with What to Do When School Is the Problem
Free to print
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For an appointment
Before you see the GP about your child
What you’ve noticed and since when, what has changed and what you’ve tried; on the back, your questions, what the GP says and what happens next.
Goes with When Reassurance Stops Working and Anxiety, by Age
Free to print
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For a call or a meeting
A record of what happened
A dated log of what happened, in her words, with who saw it; and a page for what you told the school, what they said they would do and when you will speak again.
Goes with When Your Child Is Being Bullied
Free to print
For schools
For a pastoral lead to print, show or send to parents.
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For a parents’ evening
The move to secondary school, for a parents’ evening
For a pastoral lead to print, show or send: what children worry about across Year 7, four things that help in the first half-term, and the first sentences to use.
Goes with The Move to Secondary School
Free to print
The rest of the library, the chapters, the quick tips and the things to do together, is at theparentbook.com. For one page on each subject, and everyone else who can help with it, see what helps, and where else to go.
Published by Kensington Square Therapy. Company No. 16707111. Written by therapists registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS). This page is not therapy, and not a substitute for professional support. The full library is at theparentbook.com.